1.17.2013

Our Life In Pictures

I do love a wordy blog post, but I find myself short on time (and energy) these days. 

Enter: a photo diary. 

Better than nuthin', right?

Gpa Tweet's present to the girls was this awesome soccer goal. It can be used in 3 different ways.  And, yes, we let them play with balls in the house. What else is Christmas break for if not breaking the rules?



Pony rides (this one is old, but I wanted to remember it...)
Lexi got the Michael Jackson Experience dancing and singing game for Christmas. Even Allen, who was sick as a dog and recovering from surgery couldn't' resist dancing a few moves. Yes, we even had surgery during our break. Don't worry, that story is definitely going to have it's own post.  
We spend a lot of time riding scooters and bikes these days.
The girls dressed up as presents for the ward Christmas program.

I think she might have a future in the extreme sports...
Baking bums. 
Lexi kicked the habit of biting her nails. She actually stopped about 4 months ago so I finally took her to get a fancy manicure to celebrate.
And we lost more body parts.
Houston, I think we have a problem. This is the oil "leak" from our truck. Except that our truck holds 14 qts. of oil. It's really worthy of a blog post all on its own.  
Of course, we had to have some bad behavior. We choose to reward that with extra chores in our house.
And they have to do with a happy heart. And they always do; they actually seem to love it. 
Lexi writing her first original song.

Many a movie was watched during our break.
The weather had been pretty gross. When this happens, or we're just looking for something fun to do, we load up and have a picnic in the back of the Excursion. Dad was able to meet us "at the top of the world" for lunch this day.
We made 27,000 cookies. 


And we rode bikes some more.
And drove our plasma car some more.
We ate lunch with safety goggles and binocs. 
When a house has 5 bathrooms, buying toilet brushes in bulk is a must do.
Kindle hangover. We found her at 4 a.m. downstairs, with all the house lights on, playing on her "notepad". The next morning she paid the price.
Big sissy (as she likes to be called) tickling Emmy. Always ends in tears and pouting, but it's fun for a time.

Christmas

We started our celebrations with the cousin/aunt/uncle gift exchange at Gma's house. The kids seem to get pretty excited about choosing the perfect present for their loved ones. 

Look at Dani's face!

I'm sensing a theme here for these girls...
Lexi and Dani are both taking piano lessons so they each played some Christmas songs for us during the party.

We went to church:



 Then, on Christmas Eve, Gpa Bob and Gpa Tweet came over. I made Grandma Vincent's famous ham and all the fixings. Then, we opened presents. 



I made a photo book for Gpa Bob. It was a hit!
Davis Dog (our first born) even made the trip over. We miss him so very much!


Gpa Bob got the girls the new Kindle Fire HD. It took them about two nanoseconds to figure them out. They have been a great learning tool for the kids. And yes, a 2 1/2 year old can easily use one!
 And, finally, the big day!






Drunk on Christmas happiness. 
He does exist!
Looking for the candy canes Santa leaves on our tree each year.

Allen got the girls some special presents this year...
And then he got some of his own!
Christmas gets better each year. The girls understand the art of giving (and receiving, of course) as they get older. They look forward to the traditions we've started and continued. They love being around family. We've spent plenty of Christmas days alone and while we enjoyed being together, there is something to be said for the celebratory chaos that comes with living close to family.

We've been incredibly blessed as a family to have the means to celebrate Christmas so generously. We live in the greatest nation on Earth. We have the truth of the gospel in our home. And, most importantly, we have each other.

1.09.2013

Just before Christmas, we had a 3-D ultrasound done. I've always felt like these things were a little weird, and that all babies look the same all squished up in there. However, after some consideration, I decided that since this is the last little Riddle, we might as well see what she looks like. 

When we started, she had her legs and arms covering her face! Each appointment is only 20 minutes long, and at minute 15, we still hadn't gotten a very good look at her. The tech said we'd probably need to re-schedule, but that she'd try one more time before calling it a day. 

Finally, the little girl cooperated, and we got to see her face. She looks a whole lot like Lexi and Addie did when they were newborns. They had the most furrowed brows! And of course, she has my nose. All the girls do. It's my Grandma George's nose and apparently, that side of the family wants some representation!

Here's what she looks like as a 31 week old:

The cord was in front of her face which is why the bridge of her nose has that
blemish-y looking thingy.
She opened her eyes quite a few times while we were looking at her. The tech said that's pretty uncommon and to be prepared for feisty one. Like any other type of girl would fit into this family.
She was sucking on her hand in this one. 
At 31 weeks, she was only 3 weeks younger than Lexi when Lexi was born. Seeing the similarities was pretty easy since they probably weighed about the same. With more time to put on some baby fat, who knows, she could look more like one of the other girls. Of course, we have no idea what color her hair will be. It's always an adventure at our house since our three now are so different that way.

We have 7 weeks left until she's supposed to meet us in person. That seems like a good amount of time, but it's not much time at all! Life just gets busier and is slipping through our fingers faster than we can keep up, it seems. We think of all that we need to get done to be ready for this new addition and we are running out of time!

Here's to a pleasant and glowing and healthy 7 weeks! (That comment was made with heavy sarcasm by the way. We all know the last weeks are nothing but miserable, bloat-filled, suffering and that's just the way it is.)

1.08.2013

Emmy Speech Update



Emily will be turning 3 in April. At that point, we will move from our current therapy, provided by the county, to our school district's care. We have begun the transition process which requires her to be re-assessed by her therapists.

In December, the same team that initially came out to see if Emmy qualified for care (back in July), came back to test her progress.

When Emily answered the door and said, "Hello!" the assessors mouths dropped open in total shock and then they quickly exclaimed, "She's talking!!!!!"

The first time they met Emmy, she couldn't say "Hi", let alone, "Hello". She couldn't say her own name. She was almost mute. If she did try to communicate, she would use grunting sounds accompanied by gestures to relate her ideas.

A short 6 months later, her speech progress has been remarkable!

Per their latest assessment Emily, at 32 months, tested at these levels:

- Self care: 31 months (she's not potty trained yet and this particular test expects a child to be fully trained by 24 months)
- Personal Responsibility: 42 months
- Adult interaction: 37 months
- Peer interaction: 40 months
- Self concept & social role: 32 months
- Receptive Communication: 41 months
- Expressive Communication: 34 months (speech. this was at 12 months in July!)
- Gross motor skills: 36 months
- Fine motor skills: 36 months
- Perceptual motor skills: 46 months
-Attention & Memory: 36 months
- Reasoning & Academic skills: 37 months
- Perception & Concepts: 38 months

As you can see, Emily is either right on for her age or quite a bit ahead.

Now, the speech assessment can be a little deceiving. Since we've been in therapy, Emily has made all of the developmental leaps one would expect. Her vocabulary has expanded a ton, her use of pronouns as emerged, she speaks in complete sentences, etc. etc. However, her words, while there, are not completely intelligible. She drops most of the final consonants. She backs some sounds that should be made at the front of her mouth. BUT, those things are very normal for her age in a lot of children.

When they saw her improvement, the team cautioned me that we might be dropped from services. There are two reasons we might be be eligible: 1.) She has the diagnosis of Apraxia. Whether it is correct or not, it still stands. 2.) She ages out in a few months and they might let us hang around until her birthday since it's not too far away.

Two of her therapists have even said they believe she might have been mis-diagnosed. They have never seen a child with Apraxia made such huge changes in such a short time. They are thinking she might have a phonological delay, rather than a brain function issue. As a mom, this is a huge relief. But, Emily is still young enough that it's hard to differentiate between the two types of delays. She really needs to get to be 4 or 5 before they can settle on a name for what ails her. I'm not pushing the issue because she really does need therapy, and the school district will almost always provide therapy to a child with a diagnosis. Otherwise, they make the determination based on the assessment that is provided by our current care team; in our case, it's completely misleading. While she is speaking,  she isn't forming her words correctly. Emily does still need structured therapy to continue to make the type of progress she's been making.

The school district representative will come out Thursday to make her own determination. I will fight for her to receive at least some type of therapy. Even if it's one day a week, having someone other than me working with her would be helpful. I do a lot with her at home, but I try not to nag the poor child. I mimic what we do in therapy, but don't kill her with repetition or demand perfection. I try really hard to read her cues with regard to possible burn-out and not push her to the point of resistance. The therapists have all recognized our efforts at home which is nice since some of the things we do as parents often go un-noticed.

My goal is to have Emily in a place where she can attend our preschool next year (next year!!!) and have a weekly speech therapy session with the district. Our therapists think this is the perfect plan for Emmy. The district may have a different idea and encourage us to put Emmy in the "special needs" school here in town. Every therapist we've worked with has said that wouldn't be a good fit for Emmy because her need for support is strictly limited to speech. We will take it one meeting at at time.

I took a quick video of Emily using some words. Here's the link: http://youtu.be/awc-ZbBkGm4.



12.21.2012

Christmas Letter 2012


Christmas 2012

To our dear friends and family (gush!):

Each year when I sit down to author this letter, I feel a little surprised that an entire year has already passed us by. I find myself anxiously weighing the achievements, events, trips, and day-to-day activities that have defined our year, hoping to best capture what makes us, well, us. And I’m supposed to fit it on one page, like some sort of resume to our friends and family, and how am I really supposed to tell you all about us in one short page?!?! I’ll do my best; margins will be pushed to the verge of printing limits, and it’s going to be size 9 font so put on your glasses, but no promises! I’m pretty sure this year was just too awesome to stuff onto one page…

We’ll start with the head honcho around here: Me! That was a joke. We’ll start with Allen. He’s still working at NIF (National Ignition Facility) at Lawrence Livermore Laboratory (if you’ve ever seen Wall Street 2: Money Never Sleeps, then you’ll have actually seen the blue prints of the facility) as the lead vacuum-systems manager in charge of engineering and operations. Not as in Hoover type vacuum, but “create-space-like-conditions” vacuum. He’s done well there, and is an excellent engineer as far as I can tell. He’s currently serving as the 11-year old Scout leader at church with a good group of kids. It’s been a pretty decent excuse to do boy things since he’s not allowed much of that with all of us girls here at home. He’s taken Lexi out camping and hiking this year; they are peas in a pod (literally, ‘cause she has to sleep with him to stay warm at night) and have the “best-day-ever” every time they venture out. Allen is pretty much super dad volleying between the domestic desires of 3 girls with his baking cookies, creating crafts, playing princesses, and then seamlessly moving on to teaching the girls to lay sprinkler lines, plant the garden, run electrical wires, and use tools while he makes our backyard the dream-scape we’ve always wanted. He’s thoroughly enjoyed being near his family and has gone to quite a few ball games with his brothers, dad, and my dad, too. The Riddle boys also got together for what we wives lovingly call “the annual death march” and happily hiked in the snow and rain from mountain to beach in a couple of short days. Some say torture, others say vacation!

Alexis is in first grade, and loving every minute. She’s an eager student, and hasn’t found a thing about school she doesn’t completely love. Last May, she starred in the local theater’s production of “Annie” as one of the chorus children. She was the youngest actor involved, and took to it like a duck to water. She has zero stage fright, and handled hours of rehearsal like a pro at a young 6 years old. She participated in her school choir, and is taking private piano lessons, too. She played soccer again this year, and while she sticks with it without complaining, I think she mostly does it because I’m her coach. Our team did well, and she improved a lot as a player. She’s going to give gymnastics a try in January. Her favorite past time is hanging out with her Dad. She’s his shadow, willingly soaking up all that he teaches her from the scriptures, to drawing, to yard work and so on. She has finally mastered the art of riding a two-wheeled bike. She’s thrilled with the freedom that comes with her added mobility. Lexi is a fun girl who is usually happy, helpful, and pretty easy to be around. She is definitely a great example to her sisters, carefully guiding them at every turn, and we are grateful for that – even when they aren’t!

Oh, Addie. My dear Addie. Ms. Addie-tude. She’s all that a 4-year-old girl can be. She’s charming, comical, endearing, irrational, emotional, stubborn, independent, confident yet incredibly insecure, and pretty much a total train wreck. Ok, so that might be a slight exaggeration. But, seriously, she’s a complex little person. Addie has a considerable amount of intensity in her little body. She’s also very competitive. She’s been practicing soccer with our team a bit and can almost outplay girls twice her age by pure determination alone. She’s in preschool, and a great little student. She is a mostly-loving sister to both Lexi and Emily. She is affectionate, and tries to help if someone is hurt or upset. She’s very eager to be with babies and children younger than herself and sees her role as the little mother as very important. Her favorite place to be is outdoors riding her scooter, bike, or helping Allen with chores. Addie has the gift of being passionate, and has a lot of energy to spare so we’re tossing her into gymnastics, too. I’m pretty sure she’ll either take the place by storm or have a raging fit because she can’t compete with the 16 year olds. Either way, she’s bound to learn something.

Little Emily will be turning 3 in April. Emily is, for the most part, a pretty happy little girl. But, if she hits her wall, it’s like a head-on collision at 75 mph. Just after her 2nd birthday, Emily was diagnosed with a motor speech disorder called Speech Apraxia. In real people speak: she has a brain disorder that stops her brain from telling her mouth how to work the right way. She won’t ever outgrow it, but with consistent therapy, she’ll attend regular school and live a normal life. We’ve been in therapy for 6 months, 3 days a week, and she’s made significant improvement with her verbal expression. Her delay is limited to only her speech, and in every other regard, she’s off the charts and doing great! She’s an engaged, intelligent, feisty, dramatic, lovable 2 year old. She loves puzzles and anything else that requires concentration. She’s helpful with her Dad, but often prefers to stay with me in the house. If I’m in the kitchen, she’s right there next to me “elping”. She properly tortures her sisters, as any youngest sibling should do.

As for me, I’m enjoying the slow-paced lifestyle that comes with raising three kids under 7 while being blissfully pregnant with our fourth. BAH! Tell me you didn’t buy that for a second! I’m up to my ears in raising these kids, but what else would I be doing that’s of any worth anyhow? We are, indeed, pregnant with our fourth girl. No, Allen isn’t mourning, and clothed in sackcloth and ashes. The baby is due March 2nd, 2013. By some strange alignment of the stars and destiny, I’m back at giving riding lessons. I do love working with youth riders and am completely at home in the barn. In January of last year I went with Alexis to the “Annie” auditions, and ended up being cast as “Grace”, Daddy Warbuck’s secretary. I’d never done such a thing (as in never sung a day in MY LIFE), and was a little horrified at the thought, but I accepted the offer. There was dancing and singing and all manner of jazz hands involved, but what a great time we had! Shortly after that, I got myself knocked up. As trite as that sounds, having this fourth person come to our family is a real blessing. We are excited to see just who is going to joining us. I absolutely love living near my friends and our family and enjoy being kept busy by the good things in life.

As a family, we traveled to Disneyland with my dad, known affectionately as Grandpa Bob. Over the summer, a good portion of Allen’s extended family made their way West for their vacations (and a few with some family obligations…) so those of us who were familiar got to catch up, and those of us who’d never met got to meet and make new friends. We’ve spent a lot of time with family doing normal things like celebrating birthdays, seeing Grandma and Papa on Sunday nights, attending the baptisms and blessings of family and friends, working in the yard, going to the beach, taking lots of day trips to see the wonders of the area, and so forth. Our lives are full with the things that make us happy and leave us feeling fulfilled. All in all, we’re quite possibly the most average family around, but we find meaning in our time together and doing what makes us, well, us.

May each and every one of you find the same comfort and satisfaction in all that makes you who you are, ties you to your loved ones, and matters to you most. Have a wonderful Holiday season and banner year in 2013!

Allen and Traci Riddle


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What started as a way to communicate with far away friends and family has become a place for this horse trainer/HR manager turned stay at home mom of 3 girls to hold on to a bit of her own identity. It's my take on the ins and outs, the ups and downs, the thoughts and feelings, the mistakes and triumphs of this family as we bumble our way to eternity.